Targeted Organization Networking (networking your way IN to an organization of choice) is the first step to getting desired interviews and landing an offer, CLOSING THE DEAL. Still, many jobseekers experience Call Reluctance, an emotional hesitation to prospect and self-promote.  In our culture, it is not the hardest-working, the best-prepared or the smartest who lands the best next opportunity. Rather, it is the person who is most willing to prospect and self-promote.

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Call Reluctance is nothing to be embarrassed about; living with it needlessly is. Call Reluctance is a mental response to a perceived threat. The act of prospecting is not what causes job seeking/ cold call anxiety; it is their “thoughts” about prospecting that do.

One might suggest to just change your thoughts from fearful ones to positive ones. However, positive thinking on its own is insufficient without its crucial counterpart: positive emotions.

Take a deep breath and think about your most recent business success. Your thought just sent happy hormones through your blood stream. Now, think about picking up the phone to call someone who has been on your list, but with whom you have not yet initiated contact. What fear or anxiety is attached to the thought of picking up the phone?

Guess what? Your hypothalamus just secreted hormones that match that fear and anxiety.  We can train the brain to secrete happier hormones (endorphins) so we feel better. And the better we feel, the more positive we become.

Endorphins actually calm the brain. Beliefs are merely thoughts we think again and again. Our beliefs become our expectations, and our expectations become our experience. This has been scientifically proven by behavioral scientists studying cellular biology. By overcoming Call Reluctance, you literally change your body’s chemistry so that fear and anxiety are no longer your go-to emotions.

Below are three exercises to help you set the “feeling” tone for your prospecting success:

1. At the end of your workday, before you leave the office, sit down with your journal, iPhone or a piece of paper. Write down three things that went well during your day, and why they went well. Repeat this every day! You’ll begin to notice how much better you start feeling immediately.
2. Monitor the “stories” you tell yourself (i.e., your inner dialogue). An example might be, “Making phone calls doesn’t work in the age of social media.” Until you become aware of your negative stories and learn how to change those stories, no training, coaching, or self-help books will enable you to achieve your goals. Identifying your stories is at the core of identifying Call Reluctance issues.
3. The opposite of fear is love. Love and gratitude go hand-in-hand. Back to the hypothalamus: when you focus on what you are grateful for, your hypothalamus pumps out happy hormones. When you feel better, you are more solution-oriented—and you’re no longer the victim of any habitual negative thoughts. Psychologists recommend making a list of five things for which you are grateful every morning to set you up for a more successful day.